self-talk

If You Want More Confidence, STOP Doing Hard Things

The easiest change you will ever make is doing something right. The hardest thing is what you are not doing right now. Repeating the same mistakes, habits and choices take you further from your goals. Looking at what you did (or did not do) yesterday is hard because today you can see the consequences. Maybe…
TAIF Hösten 2026 in Timrå –> First Indoor Comp of the Season

A quick little 30 arrows at 18 meters to begin this new indoor season 2026-2027. Let’s see if all that outdoor training this past summer has transferred well… Timrå is a club up in the North of Sweden. Many Swedish clubs host 30 arrow rounds throughout the season and many of those are possible to…
The Art of Exceptional Living by Jim Rohn (2022)

Enjoying more traditional self help books over new pop psych is very normal for me. It is fun to read the examples from the past as well as seeing how success was defined in society long ago. It also shows how the quest for personal power is a never ending story. Whatever you are trying…
I Just Changed a Light Bulb

Considering what has been going on these last few days, flicking a switch that did not turn became the last straw. When things build up, a simple new additional thing makes everything else crumble. It can result in very bad decisions. It can create a situation that will make the next few moments become a…
The Body Keeps the Score by Dr. Bessel Van Der Kolk

One of my favourite things is finding books that really resonate with the kind of coaching I do. BUT even better, is when I figure out that some pop psych book is simply not worth reading. This is one of them. Cognitive Behavioural Theory is a key element to becoming better. I do not believe…
What Your Emotions Are Trying To Tell You

From a wonderful X post today, here is a list which needs to be embedded into you self talk… Anger usually means a boundary was crossed. Anxiety is your brain preparing, not breaking. Sadness is asking you to slow down and grieve. Jealousy reveals what you secretly want for yourself. Guilt means your values and…
Becoming Better –> How To Make Little Steps… Forward

We get stuck in “comfortable” ruts. They might be safer than pushing forward. For a time, they might be all we can handle. And possibly, they might even be enough—but what happens when that little voice inside you starts asking for something a little bit better? If you are in a non-safe position, then becoming…
No More Wanting… You Have to Make a Choice –> Either Say It Is a WISH or DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT

If you want to figure out your goals, then do NOT just think about what you want. Anything that your mind considers a WANT will stay in limbo land somewhere between a wish or something for which you take action. It is too easy to say that you want to do better at something. Take…
A Little Bit Today is OK

Long-term goals require persistence. Doing productive stuff when you actually do not feel like it is very challenging. Of course we all need breaks now and then, but when those days start adding up to be more than the days where you are actually making real progress then you need to be truthful with yourself.…